Pet Loss CanadaBereavement Support For People Who Have Lost Their Pet Animal
It is natural to miss a loved one and need to psychologically and emotionally “regroup” as each person experiences their own journey through loss and, perhaps, an ultimate realization that their lives will be forever altered. Pet Loss Canada is a non-profit organization that has been established to assist all those who are experiencing the impending loss or are grieving the death of an animal, including all related issues that arise as consequences.

What Others Are Saying About Pet Loss Canada

  • “Anyone who has suffered a loss should not miss this!”
  • “We are better for the experience”
  • “A safe place to learn about and process our loss.”
  • “We were so thankful to have been a part of these sessions.”
  • “We never would have come to terms with our grief as quickly as we did”
  • a full list of testimonials

The Power of Counselling

Counselling for those who have or are experiencing the great loss of a beloved pet is incredibly rewarding and a true honour. Those who walk the road of grief / mourning are generally able, with family and friend support, to reach a successful conclusion believing that the pain and suffering will eventually subside but will never entirely disappear.  However, there are many others who, for various reasons, become “stuck” at some point in their grief processes and need the assistance of a trained, empathetic counsellor to be able to continue their journey.Budgie Pet Loss Canada

The first requirement in every loss is to realize that our beloved pet has not “passed on”, “gone to sleep” or “has gone away” but, in fact, is dead.  This may sound harsh but there needs to be a realization that the pet will never physically return to us. Hopefully this realitywill be replaced by the wonderful thoughts and memories of the pleasant moments our pet gave to us while being a part of the family.

Pain, sorrow and especially anger can be extremely debilitating.  A woman who, not being able to have children, saw her three dogs as her “children”.  They all died within a relatively short period of time causing even more extreme pain and rage.  The first night of a group course this person sat all night, physically removed from the other members of the group, believing she was alone, Older Dogand, while continuously looking at the pictures of her pets, she cried and wailed uncontrollably.  She expressed considerable anger at the veterinarians who had cared for her dogs for 15 years but, in the end, could not prevent death. As the course continued through weeks 2 and 3 she slowly began to realize that others in the group were also experiencing pain and suffering of their own.  Her crying slowly subsided and by week three after a discussion with her and her family she was able to express some happiness and much less annoyance.  Now, several months later, she sends me pictures of her new animals and also occasional jokes:  her anger has somewhat gone and she has been able to develop a bond with a new pet friend.

Cute Puppy

Can anyone ask for more?  To witness the “before” and “after” results of counselling are awe inspiring for all.  Each individual story carries with it the pain and experiences of those involved.  This story represents the reason for counselling in pet loss and the ultimate reward of eventually moving forward with life:  recognizing that the hole in our hearts that was created by the loss will not go away, but that we will be able to accept its presence and allow ourselves to develop a new direction for our lives where other pet friends are welcome and appreciated.

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  1. My 11 month old puppy was hit and killed by a car yesterday- I saw her hit and I am just devastated- I can’t get the image out of my mind – I laid with her on the road hoping this wasn’t true, looking in her eyes. I miss her so much – she was our baby, she followed me wherever I went. She greeted us every time she saw us like she hadn’t seen us all day – she was so intelligent and loving – I am so upset, I can’t even get out of bed, I can’t eat I can’t sleep – I just cry. This is one of the most difficult times I ever had

    • My deepest sympathies on your loss .. I too am suffering from the loss of my deeply loved best friend and here is a link to a support resource that is helping me cope, and I sincerely hope it can provide some comfort for you as well .. it also contains links to hotlines, should that become a necessary tool to use .. Alison, you are not alone ..
      http://www.pet-loss.net/index.shtml

  2. Our 11 year old Boston Terrier x French Bulldog, Ellie had to euthanized on Feb 13/17 after succumbing to her Lung Cancer diagnosis on Dec 12/16. We were devastated!! She was our baby and we did everything possible for her to live out the rest of her life pain free. Very shortly after I began looking for a new dog ( I feel like I was trying to fill a void without fully grieving) and we recently picked up brother and sister puppies same breed as our Ellie. I am overcome with grief and have been crying uncontrollably since the new dogs arrived. I feel like I made a mistake in getting them so soon, I am unable to bond with the new dogs and I want to give them back to the breeder but I am embarrassed and ashamed that I should have had these feelings sooner and I don’t know what is best to do for everyone.

    • It’s been 2 weeks today since my pup passed, and each day gets a bit better, but still cry every night missing her. I have been looking as well and have been close several times but as soon as there is a possibility that it could happen I get so upset and change my mind – my kids are getting irritated with me but I guess I am just not ready. My fear too was that I wouldn’t be able to bond or I would constantly compare to the last one. I hope that over time, if you keep them you will love them just as much. They may be what you need – what’s great about dogs is they always seem to know when you are hurting – I had a dog that everytime I was sad, would just come and sit with me – like she knew.
      I too have to realize that there will never be another just like her. They all have their own personality and you love them for who they are. Hopefully soon a new dog will choose us when the time is right – hopefully soon as it doesn’t seem quite like home without a dog.

      • Hi Alison,

        I’m so sorry for your loss. Please don’t feel pressured into getting a new pet companion if you feel you aren’t open to a new relationship right now. It’s okay, because grief is a process that takes time to happen. It’s different for everyone. It has been more than four months for us and we still have “bad days” or “difficult weeks” (I’m having one now, which is why I’m here). Be patient with yourself and what you’re feeling. It will get better.

        Your family and friends mean well and they want to see you happy again. Just let them know that in time, you will get there and be ready for a new relationship with a pet who’s different from the one you had, but whom you love for its own qualities (as you do with each of your children). Take care, it sounds to me like you know your heart pretty well.

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