Children Are Important

This is one of the kindest things you may ever see..It is not known who replied, but there is a beautiful soul working in the dead letter office of the US postal service.

Child Hugging DogOur 14 year old dog, Abbey, died last month. The day after she died, my 4 year old  daughter Meredith was crying and talking about how much she missed Abbey.. She asked if we could write a letter to God so that when Abbey got to heaven, God would recognize her. I told her that I thought we could so she dictated these words:

Dear God,
Will you please take care of my dog? She died yesterday and is with you in heaven. I miss her very much. I am happy that you let me have her as my dog even though she got sick.
I hope you will play with her. She likes to play with balls and to swim. I am sending a picture of her so when you see her You will know that she is my dog. I really miss her.
Love, Meredith

We put the letter in an envelope with a picture of Abbey and Meredith and addressed it to God/Heaven. We put our return address on it.. Then Meredith pasted several stamps on the front of the envelope because she said it would take lots of stamps to get the letter all the way to heaven. That afternoon she dropped it into the letter box at the post office. A few days later, she asked if God had gotten the letter yet. I told her that I thought He had.

Yesterday, there was a package wrapped in gold paper on our front porch addressed, ‘To Meredith’ in an unfamiliar hand. Meredith opened it. Inside was a book by Mr. Rogers called, ‘When a Pet Dies..‘ Taped to the inside front cover was the letter we had written to God in its opened envelope. On the opposite page was the picture of Abbey & Meredith and this note:

Dear Meredith,
Abbey arrived safely in heaven.
Having the picture was a big help. I recognized Abbey right away.
Abbey isn’t sick anymore. Her spirit is here with me just like it stays in your heart. Abbey loved being your dog. Since we don’t need our bodies in heaven, I don’t have any pockets to keep your picture in, so I am sending it back to you in this little book for you to keep and have something to remember Abbey by..
Thank you for the beautiful letter and thank your mother for helping you write it and sending it to me. What a wonderful mother you have. I picked her especially for you.
I send my blessings every day and remember that I love you very much.
By the way, I’m easy to find, I am wherever there is love.

Love,
God

Anniversaries

The Christmas season, for many people, brings back thoughts and memories of lost relatives and friends, amongst which are our beloved animal friends.  These various “triggers” can cause the return of grief symptomology.  This grief can seem, to the individual, that he / she has taken a step backwards in their journey through the processes of recovery in a new life.

There are several situations that should help to indicate that you need some support:

  • the grief should last for a relatively brief time period;
  • the manifestations of grief may return but, if you have been part of Pet Loss Bereavement group therapy, these should be less severe and will more easily subside.  HOWEVER, if they do not, please contact me and I will work through the processes with you;
  • do NOT be embarrassed or lower your self-esteem because these situations may arise-  these “anniversary” occasions are normal;
  • this is the best news:  as time passes the anniversaries will continue to be recognized and remembered but, hopefully, with less anxiety and stress

Pet Loss Canada has been developed for all animals lovers and supporters.  You are always welcome to e-mail a question or tell a story.